What’s Yours, What’s Theirs: An Emotional Sorting Ritual
Hey love, I’m Chauna! Or Mama Icon, if you know what’s good.
I am the holistic life coach, soft life enthusiast, and your favorite spiritual confidante. With a tea bar dream and a velvet journal full of manifestations. This blog? It’s my little corner of the internet where we slow down, unpack the heavy stuff, and bloom out loud. I speak healing, softness, and all the wild magic in between. This is where stillness meets soul work.Think of me as your big sister, with a teacup in one hand and the truth in another.
Have you ever woken up feeling heavy and couldn’t figure out why? Sometimes the weight we carry isn’t ours. In a world that’s constantly buzzing, easy to get entangled. Whether it be your partner’s mood, your coworker’s tone or a stranger’s bad vibe energy sticks. Especially when you're someone deeply intuitive or sensitive (even if you look generally unbothered). It’s not just about what’s happening to you… it’s about what’s happening around you, too. That’s where emotional sorting comes in……
What’s mine to hold… and what’s just passing through?
The Emotional Sorting Ritual
You don’t need crystals or candles. This is a daily return to your center, a reclaiming of what’s yours and a loving release of what’s not. This is a simple ritual you can do anytime:
Step 1: Pause + Feel
Close your eyes. Breathe deeply into your belly. Name three emotions you’re carrying right now. Speak them out loud or write them down.
"I feel anxious."
"I feel excited."
"I feel drained."
Step 2: Sort
Ask yourself: Is this feeling mine… or did I pick it up from someone else? Be honest. Be gentle. Maybe that anxiety belongs to your friend who vented yesterday. Maybe that joy is yours. Maybe that pressure is your inner critic — or your mama’s voice disguised as yours.
Visualize placing each emotion into one of two baskets:
Mine to Hold
Theirs to Return
Step 3: Clear + Call Back
Once sorted, speak this aloud (or write it if you’re journaling):
I return what’s not mine with love.
I call back my energy, whole and unharmed.
I release, restore and realign.
Bonus: Do a quick body shake, turn on music, light a candle, or step into the sunlight — anything that brings you back to you.
A Reminder for the Sensitive, the Strong, and the Soft
You are not a dumping ground for other people’s chaos. You are not selfish for needing space to sift through your own feelings. You are not too much for caring deeply, protecting your peace is a spiritual practice. Sorting through energy is part of becoming the woman you’re calling in. You deserve to feel what’s truly yours and let the rest go without guilt.
Next time ask yourself:
“What am I drinking in that I need to spit out?”
“What am I holding that was never mine?”
“What energy do I want to keep?”
Until next time loves,
Chauna Green
